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Embracing My Ignorance

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Last night my youngest asked me questions about genome sequencing in insects. Fail. Then another son asked me if it was important to balance RAM modules when upgrading.  Fail. Again.

It didn’t bother me though, because it happens all the time. I am plenty ignorant about a lot of things. Thankfully, most information is readily available online. Need to know how to install RAM? There is a YouTube video for that.

In fact, the last couple of days were chock full of being aware of my ignorance. It was awesome! Every time I turned around, someone was shining a light on my ignorance.

What? Are you sensing a disconnect? I have no problem admitting that I am ignorant. I would like to think I’m not IGNORANT, but I am quick to admit that there are a LOT of things that I just don’t know. My ignorance in many areas knows no bounds.

This weekend was a good reminder that I need to embrace my ignorance. And when I say “embrace,” I do mean “hug.” Like a big, awkward hug that lasts a little too long. You know the kind.

Why do I want to hug my ignorance? Because that is what you do before you say goodbye.

I spent two days in a conference about writing. (Don’t worry, I’m not going to tell you about writing.) There were so many great people there who know so much more than I do about so many things. There were seasoned authors with decades of successful experience sharing their knowledge. You kind of expect that in a seminar or conference setting.

What surprised me was how many smart young people were who knew so much about writing/publishing/editing, etc. Some of the best conversations I had were with writers young enough to be my own kids. Kinda. (Shout out to Garaghty, Torsha, RC and Brandon) I do have an advantage there, because I have very smart kids, and am used to having serious conversations with them.

At one break during the conference, I was talking to an old friend who happens to be the husband of one of the event organizers, Guy Rallison. He was telling me about how his work is going. He is a Rocket Scientist.  No, really – he designs rockets that launch into space. So when you hear someone say, “You don’t have to be a rocket scientist…,” that’s him.

Seeing Guy reminded me that I am hugely ignorant in the areas of rocket propulsion. I think I’ll embrace that particular ignorance and maybe just hang on to it.

One of the presenters at the conference was the very well-known YA fantasy writer, Brandon Mull. During his fabulous and wildly entertaining keynote speech, he made a brief reference to a quote that struck me enough to come home to find the source. Here it is:

“In my walks, every man I meet is my superior in some way, and in that I learn from him.”

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Ain’t it the truth? There is so much to learn from so many people, if we are willing.

But if I intend to continue learning, I have to do a few things:

• Embrace my ignorance. Nobody, especially me, knows everything about everything. And those who think they do, demonstrate a special kind of ignorance.

• Keep availing myself to learning opportunities. As I was sitting in the conference, I dug through my memory and realized that the most recent non-church conference I attended was all the way back in 2009. It was an LDS International Society conference, and the reason I attended was because I was a speaker. That will not do.

• Invest the time and energy. This conference was exhausting. Learning can be tiring, which is why many people avoid it as much as they can. Being almost thirty years out of college, you forget how draining full days of instruction can be.

• Surround myself with people who know more than me. This has been easy for me. Most of my life I have surrounded myself with friends who are smarter than me. I figure it is like playing basketball – if you play with people better than you, you will improve your game. The reverse is also true.

For example, there is a brother in my ward, Ron Hendrie, who was especially instrumental in helping me learn how to do family history.  No class required – I would pick up the phone, call him and say, “Brother Ron – how do I find this, or that, and then what do I do next.” He would know the answer. I would hang up the phone, enlightened, and move forward. (Emerson, check.)

• Don’t stop. You know what was awesome? How much gray hair I saw at the writing conference. Older people – even older than me – seriously engaged in trying to learn how to be better writers.

• Spend the most time learning the most important stuff. Yes, I am talking doctrine. President Ezra Taft Benson put this in perspective a long time ago:

“God commanded, “Seek ye out of the best books words of wisdom; seek learning, even by study and also by faith” (D&C 88:118). Every priesthood holder should make learning a lifetime pursuit. While any study of truth is of value, the truths of salvation are the most important truths any person can learn. The Lord’s question “For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?” (Matt. 16:26) can be applied to educational pursuits as well as the pursuit of worldly goods. The Lord might also have asked, “For what is a man profited, if he shall learn everything in the world and not learn how to be saved?” (Link)

Elder Richard G. Scott reinforced this idea more recently in an excellent General Conference address entitled, “Acquiring Spiritual Knowledge.” (Not gonna quote it – you should probably just read the whole thing, here.)

I know that it is not necessary to go to a specialized conference to learn things. I think that as I have gotten older, most of my new secular learning has come from books, and the internet. (Need to know how to fix your washing machine? It’s on YouTube.) But having two full days to focus on something? That is a rare pleasure.

Most of my spiritual learning has come from studying the scriptures, the brethren’s writings and talks, and attending church. Also, writing this blog has been a huge contributor to my spiritual knowledge, because I study things before I share them – just to fact-check myself.

I think that in the Church we can have a tendency to get a little lazy in our study – especially as we get older and feel like we have been sitting through the same lesson on repentance for the 3000th time. Sometimes we feel like we pretty much “have it down,” and we coast.

What might surprise you is that even in the strongest of High Priest group meetings, you will have seasoned priesthood holders teaching incorrect doctrine, and finding disagreement about even the most basic priesthood ordinances and gospel principals. It is obvious that not everyone is doing their homework.

One of the beauties of attending church meetings is precisely what Emerson was talking about: Every person there is my superior in some way – it is up to me to try and find what I can learn from him/her.

“The Glory of God is intelligence, or, in other words, light and truth.” (D&C 93:36)

“And if a person gains more knowledge and intelligence in this life though his diligence and obedience than another, he will have so much the advantage in the world to come.” (D&C 130:19)

This weekend was fun – not just from a social standpoint, but because I think it is fun to learn. Elder Bednar said, “True education is learning how to learn. Once I discovered that lesson, learning became fun.” (link)

Embracing my ignorance can be fun. Kissing it goodbye, even better.

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  1. “In my walks, every man I meet is my superior in some way, and in that I learn from him.”

    – Ralph Waldo Emerson

    This spoke to me a huge way. And the hugging your ignorance before saying goodbye? I could issue a few hugs myself.

  2. Thanks for the Emerson quote. I was just pondering on that myself, it’s nice to know my friend was having similar thoughts. Elder Bednar’s quote is going to stick with me as I stretch some kids this week. True education is learning to learn, hmmm. Like it! Thanks

  3. This was an awesome post (as usual for you) but I wanted to mention one thing. I have always tried to use words correctly but I referred to someone as being “ignorant” and got really slammed down. Someone was too ignorant to know what ignorant meant! My son informed me that a lot of people use that term as a great insult and I should be careful when I say it. As a local politician, I struggle to express myself with exactly the right words but sometimes it still doesn’t come out the way it should.

  4. Some people choose a word of the year. I don’t spend a lot of time on this concept because every year I know my word is “learn”. This year it occurred to me that maybe my word should be “teachable”.

  5. i love being around smarter, more experienced people. I always feel a little bit rubs off on me and I walk away a better person. this applies to both spiritual and secular things.

  6. AuntSue
    Just this week I learned why the sky is blue! Course I don’t remember the exact reasons, but for a moment there, I could have answered my kids if they had asked me. But I found it on the internet, so maybe I can find it again. Keep on learning! I love the thought that every one I meet knows more about something than I do.

  7. It really was fun meeting you at the conference. Good times! And I am excited about whatever it is you are going to write. (Please, please write it.) And I couldn’t agree more with this post, especially about the learning being exhausting. One thing I decided before I showed up this year was that when I got exhausted, I’d just stand in the hall and talk to Guy Rallison instead of go to class. (Well, I didn’t specify Guy Rallison, but that’s who I ended up shooting the breeze with. Didn’t find out about his Rocket Scientist status, or I probably would’ve gotten all intimidated and woozy. We just talked about Bogota.) But it’s okay to not eat the whole elephant. We’ve gotta pace ourselves. When the learning about writing gets to be too much, it’s okay to just learn about other people. Maybe there’s some larger application to this, an application to Real Life. Maybe not. >shrug< Okay, so maybe this isn't a comment I should be posting for all MMM-dom to read, but nevertheless, undaunted, I hit Post Comment.
    Carry on, my faithful friend.

  8. D&C 130:19 My favorite scripture. I love learning and plan to follow my great grandfather’s example of being a life long learner. Every time we went to visit him in his home, even when he was 99 years old, he would teach us something that he had just recently learned. He was always learning and studying.

  9. My daughter enjoyed meeting you! 🙂 Thanks for taking the time to seek her out. After reading your wonderful insights, I wish I had gone! There’s always next year, I guess… 😉

  10. I am excited to find out what I will learn this week. It is usually a surprise what I can learn when I keep my eyes and ears open. However, I am eager to purposely learn more from Family Search since they seem to have so much more information and “stuff” than they did just a year or so ago. Thanks for the reminder and encouragement to lessen my ignorance.

  11. A friend shared the LDS citation index app. The verses are linked to talks and speeches that General Authorities have given that reference that particular passage. It has been a fantastic addition to my scripture study.

  12. I love learning and always have. One of my biggest concerns before joining the Church in 1994 was when we would have opportunity to study scripture? Can you imagine?!? I actually had that concern!! I now find opportunity to study at every turn and am THRILLED that I “get to!” I love, love, love it and lament that at times, there are only so many hours in a day. On thing I loved reading about in President Eyring’s book “To Draw Closer To God” was his story of how his father would attend a meeting that President Eyring thought was boring and he would ask his father what he thought of it. His father would reply, “Oh I thought it was wonderful.” Confused, President Eyring asked how that was possible. His father replied to the effect that when someone was trying to teach a principle of the gospel and perhaps was faltering, he would teach himself the lesson the teacher was trying to relate. I love this idea!! President Eyring’s father also believed that he could learn something from everyone he met. What a treasured realization to have! I love that book and highly recommend it. Thank you again for a marvellous post! LOVE YOUR BLOG!!!! 🙂

  13. Learned about vineyard.lds during a sacrament meeting talk. Surreptitiously found it and added the shortcut to my phone, then put my phone back and focused on the rest of her talk. Love the idea of doing good in five minute bites.

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