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Prom. The very word conjures up memories of tuxedos, corsages, money, boutonnieres, money, dancing to disco music in formal clothes, more money, and the imminent doorstep.
My EC and I both went to prom. Not together, as we didn’t meet until college – but we both went. She went to hers in a fantastically decorated small town, High School gymnasium, and I to to a high-dollar resort where the couples who were too drunk to drive home just got a room for the night. (True!)
Prom is a signature event in the life of many a high-schooler. It is the big finish, the time to act fancy and pretend to be a grown up. Much has changed over the years, but some things have stayed the same. It is still a big deal for many, and can be great fun, but it can also come with abundant drama.
I have now sent four of my five kids to prom – dressed to the nines, excited, and irritated that parents expect pictures and details. They had a great time, and added happy memories to their high school careers.
Prom can be a very different experience for kids, depending on where they live. Some areas have LDS proms where LDS standards are enforced. Other areas have a dominant LDS population that has the same effective result. Other areas the kids just go with what is provided, and others stay home, either by choice, or from not being chosen. Everyone’e experience is different.
So, here are some thoughts that I have gathered from watching over the last decades. You will probably disagree with some of my observations. That is OK – your experiences could be vastly different. You might think I am old and boring. That is probably true.
• Prom can be incredibly overblown. Everything from the asking and answering, to “day dates,” to the clothing and the actual night become gigantic productions – making the event big. Really big. I appreciate the efforts at creativity – but it can get out of hand.
• It can be ridiculously expensive. Some schools charge $100 for a couple to attend prom. Add money for dinner, pictures and clothes, and a pre-prom “day date” and you have kids shelling out hundreds of dollars for this one event.
Guys: Scale back. You don’t need to go to an expensive restaurant. Do a group dinner at someone’s home. Take your own digital photos. Wear a suit, not a tux. Your date will understand. If she doesn’t, then you picked the wrong girl.
• Many of these same kids dropping hundreds of dollars on Prom will be leaving on missions very soon, and could really use the money. Why spend $100+ renting a tux when you could put that money towards buying a missionary suit that will be used for more than one night?
• Even more difficult is the torture of finding the perfect prom dress. A dress that will most likely be worn exactly one time. It is amazing to see how a girl who dresses modestly 364 days of the year will suddenly toss that modesty aside so she can have an awesome dress. Approved and financially backed by her mom – because it is “hard.”)
• I feel bad for kids who want to be involved with their peers at a prom, but the music and dancing are straight out of Babylon. It is terribly unfair, and leaves those kids few options. I wish school administrations, and student councils had the courage to hold these events to higher standards.
• More proms should be held on a basketball court that opens up to a swimming pool underneath. And have Jitterbug competitions.
• 2am? 3am? 6am? With breakfast? Go home already -you have church later.
• A prom is not a mini-wedding, but far too often they lead to mini-honeymoons. Sad but true. What? You thought it was only a cliché?
A few years ago, I was instructed that when bishops were asked the question, “Have you had to deal with an post-prom immorality confession?”almost all said, “Yes.” Ouch! What was the common denominator? In almost every case, the couple that went too far was already boyfriend and girlfriend, and prom just ended up being their breaking point.
Why? I have two thoughts on this as well. (And some of you won’t like them.)
a) When high-schoolers are “boyfriend and girlfriend,” they have already chosen to go against prophetic counsel. (Some parents are supportive of their kids ignoring this prophetic counsel as well. Link here) So, a boyfriend and girlfriend on prom night have already conceded to each other that obedience is not their priority– before they even get to the dance.
If a couple is already well past the holding hands and kissing phase of their relationship, there are only so many more things they can do to make the special night “special.”
b) Sadly, there is pressure on the kids to make the night an “epic” memorable occasion. All the excessive expense and build-up makes it easier to justify behaviors that would normally be scoffed at. Even today, some girls feel pressure to do things they don’t want to do because they really want to be liked, or a guy spent so much money, etc.
Girls take note: You don’t owe your date anything! Your smiling face and your presence is all he has coming to him.
Guys take note: If you ever try to guilt a girl into lowering her standards, then you are slime. She deserves better than you.
(Enough of the sex talk. But youth and parents need to know that it is not a cliché – it is real.)
• If I were the “King of the Prom Universe,” I would issue an edict that Senior boys could only take Senior girls, and Junior boys with Junior girls, etc.
A bunch of sad Senior girls stay home every year because the Senior boys are taking younger girls to the prom. I wish the boys would date the girls their same age. I am afraid that some boys feel threatened by girls that may be smarter or more mature, so they go after the younger ones.
Senior girls – don’t start cheering yet. I feel badly for those Senior girls who stay home because they have never been asked to a prom before. But for those who attended prom as an underclassman, I would just say, “Welcome to Karma.” When you were a Sophomore going to prom with that cool Senior boy, some Senior girl was staying home. You, then, are part of the problem. A lot of Senior boys hang out with the younger girls, because the girls their age have spent the last three years ignoring them in favor of the older guys. And it can come back to bite you.
• Couples that go to prom with other couples that share the same standards will have more fun, and be safer, than those who try and navigate the minefields of Babylon by themselves.
Final thought from me: Have a wonderful time at prom, make great memories, and be patient if your parents want to take pictures.
Quote from Neal A. Maxwell: “Don’t let proximate things maul ultimate things.”
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prom: just a bunch of silly social nonsense that’s a waste of time, energy, and money to navigate. this is coming from a girl who went to all the dances. there are so many better things to focus on.
I think it cane be a fun, worthwhile social interaction – if it doesn’t get too overblown. I enjoyed watching my son get fancied up to take a girl out on a nice date. Gave him a chance to flex the gentleman muscles we have been teaching him over the years.
I remember being one of the girls that never got asked out. When it was girls’ choice dance I did go, and always asked people that might not have a chance to go to a dance. I remember some friends, who had already formed a big group, found me a date. He was not a member of the church but came from a very active Catholic family, so my parents were ok with it, because he went to church and had standards. I remember he wore his orchestra tux, we ate at The Olive Garden and it was a blast. Now that I am the mother of sons, I know I want them to make sure and ask girls that don’t have the chance to go to the dances and to just go and have fun. I worry about the standards as well, but I’m happy to plan an LDS prom when that time comes.
I agree with so much of this post. First of all a hearty ‘here here’ to the comment about Seniors taking Seniors – Juniors taking Juniors thing. Oh and the modesty part – love. It IS hard to find a modest prom dress; so do you know what you do? You ‘Woman up.’ If you cannot find a modest dress in store or online then find a dress you like and make it modest. I found a great dress that I totally loved except for the lack of sleeves so I wore a cute little jacket over it and it looked and felt great. Or hey get a seamstress to add sleeves; there really is no good excuse to have an immodest formal dress. Last thing, you can totally do all the cute stuff: creative asking/replying, day activity, outfit, dinner, etc… on a budget. Organize a group dinner at a parents house, go four wheeling or have giant waterballoon fight for the day activity, shop clearance racks or invest in your mission suit early. Formal dances can be great, but they can take work and creativity that should be the son/daughter’s responsibility. And dances should never EVER be an excuse to disobey commandments.
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My daughter announced to us that she had been asked to prom. I asked her what she planned to wear, and she said, “I found a dress in the garage.” I smiled, said, “I approve,” and then went into my bedroom and laughed. Who goes to the garage to find a dress for prom? Apparently my little hipster daughter. The dress is over 10 years old (worn by her older sister in an uncle’s wedding), has also been used as a costume in two musicals, and for over five years has been kept in the dress up box in the garage. Shoes were from said sister’s wedding, shrug purchased at a thrift store for a dollar, and clutch purse courtesy of my stash of old handbags. I did her hair and she walked out the door having spent money only on Prom ticket and her share of the party bus, and she still looked pretty dang cute.
I had a great clean prom. I eventually married my prom date after our missions (heaven!). Sent two daughters to prom. Both had a great time with reasonable costs. My two sons went stag and had a better time…no pressure. Though I kind of hoped they did have dates with the same standards as us just for the experience. Stag in some places seems almost preferred.
Thanks for your post. Here are a few more ideas about prom dresses: http://ldsmediatalk.com/2013/04/13/prom-dresses-lds-standards/
I can think of plenty of examples to back up everything you said, either from my own HS or my husband’s and I’m a laurel advisor now with YW whose HS prom cost $120 this year. It’s crazy. And when I say “it’s” I mean like all of it. I had a really good time going to prom growing up but none of the fun included the dancing part.
Ya, the dancing funny enough really isn’t the fun part. Party due to the fact that no one teaches their sons how to dance and partly because of the crappy music they play. The best parts are totally the day activity and dinner.
My prom (Texas, late 70’s) was at a hotel. I made my own dress, nothing real fancy.
My kids’ prom- (Utah- mid 90’s to 2005) two day extravaganzas, boys asked out one night, girls asked the next night. Family bought tickets to watch the couples be presented ( not with their date) then a promenade/dance, then the parent dance ( mom with sons and dads with daughter) . It was a big deal! I made the dress for daughter #1- I’d been watching the movie Everafter, she liked the style of dresses from the movie. She had fun, was modest, and she didn’t have to constantly tug and pull at her dress. It still hangs in my closet…
Son #3 wore a kilt to his senior prom, when my husband picked it up, the shop was surprised it was only for one guy- they said usually it was a group of young men. He wanted to be the only one, and one mom later told me “we usually go home and talk about the girls’ dresses, but this year all we could talk about was your son!”
Prom in Southern California is a whole different level- the limos and expensive dinners and I’m so glad son #4 is only going to the MoProm this year- double dating with a friend. I have one more daughter, she has Down Syndrome, so I’m not sure what kind of prom she’ll have, but I’m sure I’ll be making her dress, so it will be modest!
They have actually asked the girls (and boys) to not wear their dresses (or tuxes) to church anymore. Sadly when they did wear their dresses to church it really did not deter the girls from picking immodest dresses. They would just wear a sweater over it to church.
Ditto to EVERYTHING you said MMM. I love that my daughter loved the $8 DI dress I added detail and sleeves to (which did not cost me as I had them already from previous items made). I will be forever grateful my mother taught me to sew. I sewed every single dress I wore to various dances in high school and my wedding dress.
I went to one Prom; my Senior Prom and I was all alone. I embraced the fact that nobody liked me by having prom pictures taken by myself. I also wore a pretty slutty strapless dress (snuck out of the house). I figured it was A-OK if I didn’t have a boy to tempt.
We had MoPro last weekend and my son wore a nice suit. He’s just barely 16 so I’m guessing it won’t still fit on his mission. He really isn’t into the whole dates and dancing thing but the Stake President got up during youth conference in March and said he wanted every boy over 16 to invite a girl to the prom. So he pretty much had to. He doubled with his older sister so you can be sure there was no hanky panky on either side.
This whole “Prom date for the whole day” and “elaborate way to ask someone” is not at all a tradition in Texas. Although my daughter got asked by a boy who made a life-sized Tardis for her (she’s really into Dr. Who) and waited in it to surprise her. I think this might be a little different because he actually asked her to her face. Since he is a non-member we told him he could take her as long as he had a discussion with the missionaries first. Which he did! And he’s having another discussion next week.
In one of my wards growing up in New York it was a tradition for the girl to wear her Prom dress to church the next day. Although cheesy, it probably kept the girls from picking anything too immodest. Does anyone do that anymore?
I didn’t know it, but I needed this today. So thanks, MMM.
Good thoughts. I saw a prom picture of a boy from our ward, and his date was wearing a dress that was basically triangles held up with spaghetti straps. I could only imagine the worry HIS parents must have all night! As a mother of 3 girls and one non-prom-attending son, I had never considered this scenario. I am relieved to be done with that part of my life.
My senior prom was awesome and on a boat and romantic. Some people threw up though.
I only went to my high school prom once and it was awful. The music was so loud, all you could do was bump and grind to it. No conversing on a normal speech level, just yelling and screaming. I went to three LDS proms (our stake was one of the stakes that pioneered the idea way back when) and they were the best times of my high school life! Everyone was modest. They wouldn’t let you in if you weren’t. No one paid to get in but they did have to be interviewed by their bishop, and if they brought a non-member date, the date had to be interviewed as well.
This is just one of many reasons we’re homeschooling our kiddos. Not that we’re trying to “shelter” them (I totally hate that stereotype), but we want them to learn in an environment where there aren’t crazy unrealistic social pressures, especially like Prom, that are associated with one’s status. It’s stupid, and I think it’s a huge factor in why a lot of kids do poorly regarding academics. They spend more time focusing on fitting in and becoming one of the many that their studies suffer. And now I’m rambling…but you get the point.
The boy I liked when I was a sophomore took my senior sister to the prom. So, when my work called and asked if one of us was available to work that night my mom said yes for me.
Our stake had a grown-up prom a couple of years ago. They sprung for a photographer and gave every couple a 5×7. That was definitely the best prom I ever went to. I even got to go home with my date.
I went to prom twice. First time was my sophomore year, (the guy asked me, it was my first date, that was interesting…) He went to a really small school, so there was hardly anyone there to dance awkwardly.
My senior year, my best friend from the drama department asked me. We were both A students, so tickets were free. I borrowed a dress from the drama department, then wore a little jacket to make it modest. Overall, I spent like $50, even though we went to a nice restaurant for dinner.
Basically what I learned was to look around. Prom doesn’t have to be a ridiculously expensive affair, if you know who to talk to.
Amen, brother.
That said, my kids who have chosen to go to Prom so far have made good choices. I’d be happier with less of the “day activity” stuff, but for the most part their activities have been reasonable (games at a local park, etc.). (The one time the plans were clearly over the top I made myself very popular with my daughter by calling all the other parents involved and getting consensus to change the plans.)
They’ve also been blessed with great friends who have high standards, so there hasn’t been too much peer pressure to do anything unreasonable.
My daughter went to Prom last week, wearing a hand-me-down (but totally fabulous, and completely modest) dress from her older sister. She spent less than $5 for materials to make a home-made boutonniere. The group took photos in a neighbor’s yard, had dinner at the home of one of the boys’ parents (with younger siblings serving as wait staff), went to the dance, then a brief “after activity,” and were home by midnight. She didn’t break the bank, stayed away from any spiritual danger, and had a fantastic time.
When I went to my senior prom I picked out a dress pattern that I wanted and asked my mom to make it and add sleeves (the pattern was for a sleeveless dress). My mom happily obliged but the sleeves proved a lot harder than she thought they would be. After numerous attempts my mom out of desperation said that maybe we should just keep it sleeveless (as a mom now I totally get her desperation). Probably more due to stubbornness than a testimony of sleeves I insisted on the sleeves. My mom persevered and the sleeves were completed.
I had a wonderful time at my prom with a great group of friends who had high standards. The next day I participated in the ridiculous tradition of wearing prom dresses to church. One of my YW leaders who was home sick that day told me later of her 8 year old daughter coming home from church to report on all the pretty dresses that the girls were wearing. She reported to her mother that mine was the prettiest dress and the only one with sleeves.
I’m so glad I got the reminder that what I choose to wear affects not only me but also people that I didn’t even realize were watching.
I was just remembering the other day when we wore our prom dresses to church and wondering why on earth we did that. At the time it seemed like a status symbol like, “Oooh, look at me, I went to Prom! I’m so cool!” I always wore modest dresses, too, but now that I look back on it, I shake my head. Really?! It’s almost as bad as wearing pants to church to make a political statment.
My prom was memorable, but not for dancing. We went with my best friend and his date (they are now married in the temple), and everything that could have gone wrong did. My friend was very late picking me up because, while he was getting ready, his brother took the car for an oil change. Then we relieved the girls from their long wait and went to dinner at a nice Italian restaurant, where the server accidentally spilled our lemonade all over my friend. After dinner the car broke down on the way to the dance, and we ended up stranded on the side of the freeway until my friend’s mom could come and trade cars with us. Upon arriving at the dance we got in line to take pictures, which took so long that by the time we finished we had JUST missed the last song.
We laugh about it now. 🙂
I am so thankful that my high school was in a very teen-friendly town. I went with a friend and we had a great time. Our prom tickets came with a book of ‘coupons’ to be used at various businesses around town and were good for the whole of prom night. The roller rink, the water fun park, the bowling alley, various eateries, etc all were open for the teens to use post-prom. It was genius. Kept a lot of kids busy having fun instead of getting into trouble.
No one ever asked me.
My LDS daughter went to an all girls Catholic HS (she was the only LDS girl there and she made sure everyone knew it). Her proms were very girl heavy cause they all went date or no date. All her prom pics are with her best girl friends having a great time. None of my boys particularly cared for prom even though they went cause they had to pay!
Unfortunately, your estimate of hundreds of dollars spent may be on the low end. A couple of quotes from an article I read recently:
“Families in the Northeast expect to pay the most, an average of $1,528, while Midwestern families were the most frugal, at an average of $722, according to the survey of more than 1,000 parents of prom-aged teens.”
“Families with household incomes below $50,000 a year plan to spend an average of $1,245 on prom this year, compared to $1,129 for those with incomes above $50,000, the Visa survey found. And single parents plan to spend $1,563, nearly double the amount of married parents.”
I don’t think we spent that much on our wedding reception.
Holy smokes! That’s so sad. So so so sad. Our wedding reception totaled less than $1,500, and that includes EVERYTHING including my dress. It was a dang awesome reception, too! I remember in my high school, tickets were $90 for a couple, add the dress (I never paid more than $60!), tux, flowers, limo (we never did one, but a lot of kids did), dinner…etc…I can’t even imagine.
Amen to it all!
I didn’t go to prom, but our Seminary teachers (release time) threw a “I didn’t want to go to prom anyway!” party. It was awesome! I have such great memories of that night.
I went to prom as a kid (not mine — I was at a state competition that year, but the next year I went to my girlfriend’s prom).
Oh, and I had a girlfriend in HS (there didn’t seem to be so much no girlfriend/boyfriend talk in those olden days).
And our prom was nice. In our state young people’s driver licenses expired at midnight, so we had a “prom” until midnight and “after prom” at the same venue until 5 am. There were couples who managed to rent rooms at the hotel, but not as many as today, for sure.
My kids have had a variety of experiences. Non have gone to a US prom. Two went to much scaled down proms at international schools when we were overseas (smaller schools, smaller proms). A couple have been to LDS “mock proms” — one with a date and the others not.
I’m with you: I’d rather it all go away. I’m glad my kids have been relatively ‘safe’ from the effects of the big US High School Prom machine.
I do remember my mother’s observation regarding proms in my day. After watching my brother and older sisters go, she observed that in every case by the time it was all over (prom, after-prom, next day picnic) the dates were usually pretty sick of one another.
Back home in California my kids didn’t really enjoy the school dances because the dancing by the students was totally inappropriate. My daughter once went to Winter Ball, and ended up leaving early with her friends because they couldn’t stand the way the other kids were dancing. The nice thing is that the church puts on an “Alternative prom” for LDS kids. Many LDS kids forego the school prom and just attend the LDS alternative one instead.
mCat what a great idea for the YW…they probably had more fun there without all the pressure of Prom!
My kids are little (8 & 4) and our area began having Mormon proms a few years ago. I have a few issues with those, but even those are getting out of hand in my opinion. I just hope by the time they get old enough to go they (along with their parents) make good decisions.
Thanks for the post – as a girl who got to go to 3 proms (yes as a Sophomore I went with a Junior…before you cast any stones I was not a member of our church and neither was my date) I plan on teaching my kids that going to the Prom is not as special as the world would like for us to believe.
Wow, it’s really different in that part of the world. I only went to prom once out of my four years of high school, that was during my senior year.
I didn’t have a date, I just ate food at the prom and danced with whoever wants to dance with me, and because I didn’t have a date, my parents picked me up from the prom venue when it was done.
This may be weird for the many but, it wasn’t that special but I had fun maybe because it was my first night out of our house that my parents approved of, though they picked me up after. I’m weird like that, or I’m just a late bloomer.
I never went to prom.
I know my cousin spent crazy money on prom taking his date on a helicopter ride to an island where they had dinner at some fancy restaurant- upon returning- a limo picked them up and took them to the dance. It was insane in my opinion. Big $$$$$.
I am proud to say that my daughter wore a modest gown when she went to prom — and she was the only girl at the prom in a modest gown (yes, I was in the ballroom for several minutes and watched the comings and goings). I was always broken hearted when I was YW president to watch my YW and their parents make the decision that it was ok to wear immodest gowns to prom, because “it’s just this once”…”it’s a special occasion”…”it’s too hard to find modest gowns.” Wrong answer, on all accounts. I told them, “Stand as a witness of God at all times, and in all things, and in all PROM DRESSES!” They laughed, but I was serious. (The same applies to swimwear…)
We have always been able to find modest gowns for our daughters, or find gowns that we could make modest with a little effort, creativity, and the help of a good seamstress. It takes effort, but 1 Nephi 3:7 comes to mind — the Lord will provide a way to obey His commandments. I have seen that come to pass in my daughter’s life — she told her date for senior ball that she wouldn’t go if she couldn’t find a modest gown…there were a lot of prayers said and she was able to find a gorgeous, modest gown that was absolutely fabulous on her — she got so many compliments. It was the only completely modest dress we found off the rack in our city…and it was in her size, needed no alterations, and was on sale. A blessing? Absolutely! My daughters have never once regretted dressing modestly — even when my older daughter was doing pageants and was the only girl on stage, in a group of 20 girls, wearing a modest gown. She stood out, and she knew she stood out, and she was proud to stand out and stand for what she knows to be true.
I am grateful for “Mormon Proms” — my older daughter went to one in high school and loved it. The music was appropriate, the atmosphere was appropriate, everyone was dressed appropriately, and it was good, clean fun. There was much less emphasis on it being a huge, expensive event. It was simple and it was a lot of fun. I am grateful that we live in an area where this will also be an option for our younger daughter.
Most of all, though, I’m grateful for the gospel standards that help me be a better parent, and I’m grateful that I was blessed with daughters who WANT to follow the counsel to dress modestly.
My mom made all of my formal dresses in order for them to be modest. I picked the pattern and fabric and she would pull it off somehow. I only look back and shudder at one of them…what was I thinking?!? I now have 2 little daughters that will grow up too quickly. I need stores that tend to have modest dresses to put in my “for future reference” folder. My sewing always ends in an epic disaster!
I did go as a sophomore but *NOT* as a junior…I got rear-ended instead. Fun times…
My son, a Sophomore this year (birthday in Sept.-dumb district age rule) Asked one of his Senior friends to prom this year. While I wasn’t happy that he went to prom as a 10th grader with the expense etc. (Because I hate what prom has become, and two more years… oiy!) I was very proud that he asked someone he knew wanted to be asked and not the girl of his dreams. I know because of that he had more fun because he wasn’t under the pressure to impress dream girl, and instead could just have lots of fun and make it a great night for his friend(s). And she was so happy to have had her high school dream of being able to go to prom before she graduated fulfilled. I won’t go into her background but she needed and deserved it!
It’s not the first time this group of friends has stepped up to help a ‘missed or dissed girl’ and I am proud of them.
I would vote for you as “King of the Prom Universe.”
Just went through the prom thing with my 17 year old son. The LDS prom was held the same night as their school prom. His best girl friend (that is girl that is his best friend, he hangs our with other girls, also) is a senior and they do a lot of things together, so prom was a given. She was real excited and spent a bit of money on a nice modest dress and spent the day all excited, getting hair done, etc. He was kind of whatever about it. She wanted to go to the school prom to be with her friends, he said church prom or no prom. Luckily, he won out. They had a great time, great pictures. She graduates in two weeks and hopefully will be leaving for missionary service by the end of the summer. He will leave next summer after he graduates. They had a great time. It cost him all of $20 dollars, with a hand made coursage a sister in our ward made, and they went to Pizza Street buffet dressed up in their formals and had a ball there.
Lee, are you by any chance Robi’s brother?
I never went to Prom. Ever.
Great post and timely! I’m more than grateful that my kids are all done with that stuff. Yes, fun memories, but we always taught the boys “don’t spend so much money on someone else’s wife” Tuxes were rented from a local for 40 bucks. Friend did the corsages and dinner was kept to a minimum. Day dates usually involved something outdoors that cost very little. One of the few things my boys were really good at 🙂
And as the mother of boys, my biggest fear was what kind of dress their date would show up. I always had them come here before heading out so I could get pictures and I made a point of anytime a girl was in a modest dress, of thanking her My boys hated me for it, but I wanted to make a point that it was important.
Lastly, we had a fun tradition. I have a large picture of the Savior hanging in my living room. I would always have the kids pose for a picture with the Savior positioned right behind and inbetween them. Just a little reminder of who was also on their date.
As much crap as they gave me about it, as adults, they laugh and tell me that they secretly loved it.
Oh – just kidding. One more final thing. I have a “prom pity party” for the girls (my young women)that don’t get asked at my home the same night. The idea is to do something fun together as girls and emphasize that prom is not the end all…… We take the traditional Jesus picture too.
Okay, done now. You’re welcom.
Okay–as a girl who went to prom as a Junior and had a miserable experience, then was the only girl who didn’t get asked a senior–I love the idea of a Prom Pity Party! That’s awesome….
“don’t spend so much money on someone else’s wife” – I love that one!
It’s another world. I never had a prom; they’re a fairly new idea here. My eldest daughter did (and other daughters will), but it was just for the year 11s at her school, and there was no food, no flowers, no dates – just a load of kids dressed up nicely and dancing in a local hall until 10 p.m.
That is another world from here.